This week the State of Connecticut closed its investigation into the Sandy Hook shooting. Inside the report are some rather strange tidbits about Adam Lanza. Imagine living in this household:
- [His mother] was concerned about him and said that he hadn’t gone anywhere in three months and would only communicate with her by e-mail, though they were living in the same house.
- [H]e would not sleep in a hotel. In fact, during Hurricane Sandy in October 2012, with no power in the house, the shooter refused to leave the home and go to a hotel.
During the week of December 10, 2012, the shooter’s mother was out of town in New Hampshire. She arrived home Thursday evening December 13, 2012, at approximately 10:00 p.m. [the night before the shooting].
The shooter was particular about the food that he ate and its arrangement on a plate in relation to other foods on the plate. Certain types of dishware could not be used for particular foods.
The mother did the shooter’s laundry on a daily basis as the shooter often changed clothing during the day. She was not allowed in the shooter’s room, however, even to clean. No one was allowed in his room.
The shooter disliked birthdays, Christmas and holidays. He would not allow his mother to put up a Christmas tree. The mother explained it by saying that shooter had no emotions or feelings. The mother also got rid of a cat because the shooter did not want it in the house.
I’m thankful for author Seth Godin, who posts a great Thanksgiving message on his blog every year. It’s thought-provoking, in that it makes me think about some new reason to be thankful for something I hadn’t considered before.
Here’s an excerpt of what he wrote for today:
In the US, today some people will give thanks for what they personally have. Others will focus more on what has gone right for family and friends. And others will dig deeper and think hard about what they can do to take an even longer view, and to create a platform where even more people will be thankful a year or a decade from now.
What a great thought: that we should not only thank the people who help people be more thankful, but also consider what we can do to make people more thankful.
In my first two and a half weeks in North Dakota, the number of people who would approach me, introduce themselves, ask how I’m doing or if I needed anything, etc., amazed me. That warm welcome has made this transition so much less scary. They went out of their way to help me, and I am thankful for that. It will also motivate me to do the same thing once someone else is the newbie and I’m one of the regulars.
If You Must Talk Politics At Thanksgiving, Here’s How
On Thanksgiving, it’s usually best if you don’t talk politics. The subject tends to aggravate people, and it’s very unlikely that anyone’s mind will be changed. So don’t do it.
But if you must talk politics, how should it be done? A lefty writer I follow is giving the subject some thought. “Every year there’s a spate of blog/magazine pieces about how to discuss the political hot potato du jour with your crazy right-wing relatives at Thanksgiving,” he writes at Mother Jones. “And every year they’re fake. Mostly they provide stock liberal responses to imaginary conservative talking points.” (For conservatives, the worry is how to talk with left-wing relatives.)
Isn’t there a better way?
Read more. [Image: SteveVoght/Flickr]
Although hopefully everyone avoids politics during Thanksgiving, this is actually excellent advice for anytime you happen to end up in a political argument with someone. Rule #6 in particular is vital: Rather than insulting them for a particular flaw in their opinion (which will only make them hate you too much to change their mind), ask questions that force them to confront that flaw (which will actually make them likely to take a sincere interest in your opinion).